what you focus on...

The lesson of the week, the month, the year, probably of my life so far:

“What you focus on, grows.“

It’s a very simple logic.

What you focus on, grows more.

If you read the last newsletter, you know how I’ve been feeling these past few weeks.

Doubt, uncertainty, fear of failure, etc. It was a downward spiral, I felt helpless.

I spent the week trying to drag myself out of a deep hole I realised I buried for myself.

That I was the sole reason for me to feel this way.

Talked to a couple of close friends, and the one common thing they all told me
(which shocked me)

This was really weird to hear.

I’ve known these guys for years, and yet they said it with such confidence which gave me the realisation that I was the one who was doubting myself for the first time.

I’ve never had this feeling before.

I have been so accustomed to the feeling of other people doubting me, which then gave me the fuel to prove them wrong.

But this, this was uncharted territory. 🧭

Without realising, I had gone days and weeks ahead constantly doubting myself in every single thing I did, slowly chipping away at the trust I had in myself to get shit done.

It was a downward spiral until I reached an impasse.
Last week. Make or break.

When it finally hit me, it felt so stupid and obvious to me.

Especially since I’ve literally written newsletters about it. 😂

I was so focused on the questions

‘What if it goes wrong?’
‘What if it doesn’t work out?’
‘What if I don’t close this client?’

And never once, during this period did I think:

What if it goes right?’
‘What if it DOES work out?’
‘What if I DO close this client?’

Now with the re-frame, the possibilities seemed endless to me.

When the questions were negative, they all pointed toward the same conclusion:

‘I will become a failure.‘

But when the questions were reframed in a positive way, there were an infinite number of possibilities, POSITIVE POSSIBILITIES that my business could grow and scale.

The revelation was mindblowing, yet so painstakingly obvious.

I’m not kidding, I spent a night re-reading all of my newsletters and finally took my own advice. 🫣

Disclaimer: The images below are literal screenshots taken from my past dials.
Click on the images to read the full version.

Exhibit A

Exhibit B

Exhibit C

As you can see, I seem very wise, yet very stupid at the same time.

Very wise to have written all these words, and very stupid for not taking my own advice. 🤦‍♂️

I’m all good now. I’m glad I had a reality check because it really put things into perspective.

God had to put this obstacle in the way, as a mere reminder to myself of what I am truly after.

And that…is between me and the big guy up there. 😉

Let this be a lesson to you.

Always read your newsletters before suffering a panic attack. 😅

Okay but seriously.

The problem you’re having?

There’s a very high chance you already know the answer to it.

The question is, are you willing to solve it?
Let’s table that discussion for another day. 💨

Before we depart, here’s a nice riddle for you.

What you focus on grows.

Your mind doesn’t know the difference between good and bad.

Focus on the positives and don’t look back.

Because what if…

this all does work out in the end?

🤷‍♂️