lost in the sauce

I had a talk with a friend the other day, and I realised two things:

1. It is very easy to lose track of time in this fast-paced world. I call it ‘getting lost in the sauce’.

2. I should give a TED talk goddammit.

The world is a very fast-moving place if you haven’t noticed yet.

And I mean Earth, as well as your own little world too.

Your world—comprised of the people and the things you care about. Yes, that world.

When we were in school, we were so used to being told what to do, when to do it, and how.

Come back home, play some video games, study when our parents instructed us to, and repeat.

We were happy because we were oblivious to the happenings of the outside.

We were in our own little worlds.

So when we finally reach high school or college, we are suddenly granted this freedom that we had always wished for.

You would think that people would be happy if they got what they wished for.

But tell me,

It’s been about 10 months since I started working.

And A LOT has happened these 10 days.

Read that again.

One thing I came to terms with—it is so easy to get lost in what you’re doing.

Whether that’d be work for most of us, or studies, or just anything really.

We lose track of time—months feel like weeks.

Most importantly, we lose track of what is really important.

See, there is no such thing as ‘someone is busy’.

It just means that they’ve got better things to do.

You are not at the top of their priority list at that moment. And that’s fine.

Likewise, you should know what you prioritise the most and least, in that order.

That way when life’s hurricane throws you off-board, you know your way back onto the ship.

Never lose track of what’s truly important.

And only you get to decide what’s important, for you.

Your priority list is your map.

It helps the lost. The Wanderers.

The ‘I am going with the flow’.

I’m not saying it’s wrong to go with what life throws at you. If anything, it’s a good take.

But, all of us do need something familiar to fall back on to when the days are rough.

You are having a bad day because you are facing uncomfortable situations.

Uncertain territory.

So, turn that day around by falling back on something you know you can rely on.

Yourself.

Have you ever felt like you’re just, lost?

‘What am I even doing? Why am I doing this? I don’t even like it.’

An identity crisis. You don’t even know your own goddamn self anymore.

You are the only person you can trust in this world, because no one else, is you.

We are all alone in this together.

So, you must be a credible person for yourself, right?

The act of just showing up for someone makes them trust and respect you.

So, show up for yourself.

You are your #1 priority.

Be honest with yourself.

Confront your thoughts.

Reason.

Argue.

Debate.

Accept.

If you cannot have this talk with yourself, how do you expect to trust anyone else?

You’ll end up making decisions that do not favor you for the rest of your life, because these opinions came from a bunch of people around you who have no idea what it’s like to be, you.

No one does.

We all say we relate, and we find comfort in that.

But you also sometimes feel no one understands what you’re going through.

And in times like those, who do you turn to?

You.

Be there for yourself first.

#1 priority.

Find your way back home, to you. 🛣️

If you’re ever feeling confused about life, or you don’t know what to do and you’re stuck—talk to yourself.

Trust me, you’ll wish you had done it sooner.

Take a step back from everything from time to time, and relax.

Look at everything you’ve done from a different perspective—a bird’s eye view. 👁️

Enjoy the little things. Confront and accept within.

All the answers you’ll ever need are right there, within you.

You just need to look into the finer print, between the lines.

It is very easy to get lost in the sauce.